You can look like a gentleman, you can act like a gentleman, you can even walk like a gentleman but if you don’t speak like a gentleman, then you’ve failed as a gentleman.
Welcome to ‘Speaking Etiquette 101 For Gentlemen’.
Don’t worry I’m not gonna charge you for this class. 🙂
INTRODUCTION: WHO IS A GENTLEMAN?
Are you a Gentleman? Or a Stylish Man?
No, wait … That’s not an easy question…so think deeply about the question before you answer.
Being a gentleman takes learning and practice. For a true Gentleman, looking good is only half the battle. For a stylish man, it’s all about the looks.
Being a gentleman means much more than saying “please” and “thank you” and opening doors for the ladies.
HOW TO SPEAK LIKE A GENTLEMAN | 5 TIPS
#1. ALWAYS SAY PLEASE.
This is a core characteristic of a gentleman’s lifestyle. Do not underestimate the importance of saying “please”. A true gentleman isn’t proud to use the word, whether he is asking his subordinate for something or just ordering his coffee. Saying “please” is a simple and subtle act but it shows how respectful you are.
In addition, being polite while speaking to others shows that you are a man who is not focused only on himself. It also shows that we have a genuine respect for others in the society and are willing to acknowledge them.
#2. ALWAYS SAY THANK YOU.
It doesn’t matter what he receives, a true gentleman always says “thank you”. Saying this is the most basic thing you should learn as a child, but unfortunately, some men weren’t listening when their parents were teaching them basic manners.
Like a gentleman, you should always say “thank you” when the waitress serves you or the doorman opens the door for you. Honestly, it’s not that difficult, people respect and appreciate you more when you do these little things.
#3. LISTEN TO OTHERS.
The key to the art of speaking is not in the act itself but in the ability to listen.
Wow! Did I just come up with that? That’s some Jim Rohn stuff right there. I better quote it…
“The key to the art of speaking is not in the act itself but in the ability to listen.” – KOBI O. MBAGWU
We prefer to hear ourselves speak as opposed to others. In order to speak like a gentleman, you need to remember that listening to others shows how respectful you are. Listening more than speaking allows you to develop a response and answer intelligently. Here are some tips:
Be genuinely interested, focus on the speaker, nod your head, and make the appropriate responses. While you’re talking to someone, do not be distracted by your phone, look at the speaker or speakers. That’s simple.
#4. DON’T USE CURSE WORDS.
Do you curse a lot? If you want to speak like a gentleman, you shouldn’t use curse words. You need to act like a gentleman that you are or want to be, not like a man with mouth diarrhea! Sorry…I wasn’t cursing.
Cursing makes you less of a gentleman and you lose your credibility as well. Trust me, you don’t need to curse to get your point across or to express yourself. You can express yourself in a more respectable and gentle way. Cursing a lot immediately tells people that you are a negative person. It makes you look unintelligent and lacking in respectability.
#5. DON’T TALK DOWN TO PEOPLE.
A gentleman never puts other people down to lift himself up!
He doesn’t insult people or say things to hurt their feelings. He is very considerate of others. And yes, a gentleman never gossips about other people or spread rumors. He is not a tattletale! I know a lot of men do these, but really, this is not dignifying.
#6. DON’T INTERRUPT OTHERS.
A gentleman doesn’t interrupt others when they’re speaking. You don’t have to interrupt the speaker in order to say your view, just wait until the other has stopped talking before you start. Interrupting someone when they are speaking is rude! You should know when to shut up and listen!